Divorce and separation happen. People who have joined their lives together sometimes find out that it isn’t the best way for them to be. And when the legal system is in play, there are lots of different details to consider. Ultimately though, there should be a goal somewhere in there that regardless if divorce and separation do occur, relationships should at least be amicable from a legal standpoint.
There are matters of spousal maintenance, family therapy, open lines of communication with children, and questions about dividing property. Amicable relationships have to work their way through the full spectrum of emotional, practical, and legal issues.
Most people have heard of alimony payments, but the concept of spousal maintenance may not be as familiar. In certain states in the country, rather than alimony, lawyers work with divorced couples to figure out spousal maintenance numbers and values. Essentially, just because people separate doesn’t mean that standard of living has to go down. Depending on who makes more money in the relationship, there is a social and legal obligation to figure out how to continue payments to them at least until lifestyle matters are balanced out.
Many times, there will be tension, anxiety, and even anger left over when people separate. However, there are ways to keep relationships moving forward at least on a neutral level. In one way to do that is to consider going to couples therapy or going to family therapy. It can be challenging to approach topics if you’re emotionally involved with them, which is why having a licensed therapist bring up questions can be such a positive experience for everyone involved. Family therapy doesn’t work instantly though, so it does take some time to work through issues.
Keeping Communication Open with Kids
If there are children involved in a divorce, things can get more emotionally dicey. Depending on the relationship each parent has with the child, the kid may not know how to behave, or may not understand why his family is changing. Keeping open lines of communication will make sure that a child has a chance to express what’s on their mind and gives adults an opportunity to speak openly to them as well.
How To Divide Property
Another matter that involves emotions, practicality, and legality is how to divide property among divorced individuals. Depending on who made more money, who owned specific property before the marriage, and who maintained certain pieces of property, legal requirements and social norms may require a lot of detailed contractual obligations. Especially if there is some piece of property or item that has high value to both parties, there can be a lot of discussions that have to go into the fairest way to divvy things up.